“The breakup story isn’t gossip for me. For me it is flesh and blood – says Francis Totti interviewed by Aldo Cazzullo on The Corriere della Sera -. My life is involved. There are three people involved who I love more than myself: my children, whom I want to protect in every way. And there is a love that lasted twenty years. I would have expected everything, except that it would end like this ”.
Everyone talks about it. “Everyone except me. I haven’t said a word yet. I said I wasn’t going to talk and I didn’t. But I’ve read too much nonsense, too many hoaxes. Some have even made my children suffer. Thats enough”.
What nonsense? “Many, in particular one: that the culprit of the breakup would be only me. That the marriage would end because of my betrayal. It wasn’t me who betrayed first. Then I’ll be silent again. Whatever will be replied to me, I will shut up. because my priority is to protect my children ”.
You and Ilary are the topic of the year because you were beautiful. It seemed like a fairy tale: the most loved footballer, the TV star. “Fairy tales don’t exist. We’ve had ups and downs, like any couple. Then something broke ”.
When? “The real crisis exploded between March and April of last year. But I had been suffering for some time ”.
Because? “It all started in 2016. From my penultimate year as a footballer. Quitting isn’t easy, it’s a bit like dying. Then I started working as an executive. The break with the old property was traumatic, like having to leave one’s home. I was frail, I lacked references, and llary did not understand the importance of this pain. Then came October 12, 2021 “.
What happened on October 12th? “My dad is dead. Covid. And I last saw it on August 26th. I knew he was sick, and I couldn’t visit him. My dad was always there for me, he never lost a trip. He never paid me a compliment, but with the others he was very serious: Francesco is number one, he said. Then I took Covid too, in violent form: 25 days locked up at home, I was about to end up in the hospital. It was a terrible time for me. Luckily there were the children. Finally I was able to spend more time with Cristian, Chanel and Isabel. My wife, on the other hand, when I needed her most, wasn’t there. In the spring we went into crisis definitively. The last year was hard, there was no more dialogue, there was no longer anything ”.
And you, Totti, didn’t you make mistakes? “Of course. When it breaks, it breaks in two: 50 and 50. I should have been with her more, alone. Instead, on weekends, I organized with her friends. Ilary was also there, but I should have taken her to dinner, dedicated more situations to her ”.
She, Totti, had an affair with Noemi Bocchi. “It is not so”.
Dagospia has published a photo in which in December 2021 you are sitting not far away at the stadium. “Noemi was not at the stadium with me. We arrived with different cars, we had different seats, do you think I’m taking my lover to the stadium? However, it is true that I already knew her and frequented her, but with padel friends. Our story began after the New Year and was consolidated in March 2022. I repeat: I was not the first to betray. In September of last year the rumors began to arrive: look that Ilary has another one. Indeed, more than one. It seemed impossible to me. Instead I found the messages ”.CopyAMP code.
Did you spy on your wife’s cell phone? “I had never done it in twenty years, nor had she ever done it with me. But when I got warnings from different people, whom I trust, I got suspicious. I looked at her cell phone. And I saw that there was a third person, who acted as an intermediary between Ilary and another ”.
Who was? “Don’t let me tell you the name. He is a totally different person from me, who belongs to a world very far from mine, and fortunately. It was a shock. Not only that Ilary had someone else; but that he might be interested in such a man. Yet he had it ”.
And you went for lawyers. You joined Annamaria Bernardini De Pace with her historical lawyer, Antonio Conte. “I was looking for an agreement. I didn’t want to go to court. So I proposed: we think first of the children, we leave the house to them, and we take turns, we make three days for each one. I didn’t want to see the guys with the suitcase in their hand, between Eur and North Rome. But Ilary said no. So I proposed to divide the house, after all it is large. Or get one all for yourself. Nothing to do: only she wants to stay in the house, and that’s it. Then we didn’t talk about her anymore, because she left with her sister for Tanzania. A vacation paid for by me “.
What will it ever be … “That’s not all. Her father went with her to empty the safety deposit boxes, and he took away my watch collection. She didn’t even leave the guarantees, not even the boxes “.
The watches? “There are some very valuable Rolexes. He claims I gave them to him; but if they are men’s watches … I refuse to think it is a question of money. If anything, it’s a spite ”.
What did she do? “And what was I supposed to do? I hid the bags from her, hoping for an exchange… (Totti smiles) But there was no way ”.
What happens now? “I do not know. I fear that with Ilary he will end up in court. I still hope that we can find an agreement and end this story here. For sure, now I am silent. I don’t know if it’s understood, but this afternoon it cost me six months to live. I would have preferred a thousand times to give you an interview to talk about football and Roma, which I always carry in my heart ”.