LATEST NEWS AS ROMA – Francis Totti speaks openly about his private life, about the painful one parting with Ilary Blasi in an interview that appeared this morning in the columns of Corriere della Sera (A. Cazzullo). These are the words of the Captain:
Francesco Totti, knows what is the most clicked and debated topic on the Net in 2022, more than Covid, the war, the queen …
Stop. This story is not gossip for me. This story is flesh and blood to me. My life is involved. There are three people involved that I love more than myself: my children, whom I want to protect in every way. And there is a love that lasted twenty years. I would have expected everything, except for it to end like this.
The fact remains that everyone is talking about it.
Everyone except me. I haven’t said a word yet. I said I wasn’t going to talk and I didn’t. But I’ve read too much nonsense, too many hoaxes. Some have even made my children suffer. Thats enough.
Many, in particular one: that the culprit of the breakup would be only me. That the marriage would end because of my betrayal.
It is not so?
I want to clarify this point: I was not the first to betray. Then I’ll be silent again. Whatever will be replied to me, I will shut up. Because my priority is to protect my children.
You and Ilary are the topic of the year because you were beautiful. It seemed like a fairy tale: the most loved footballer, the TV star.
Fairy tales don’t exist. We’ve had ups and downs, like any couple. Then something broke.
The real crisis exploded between March and April last year. But I had been suffering for some time.
It all started in 2016. My penultimate year as a footballer. Quitting isn’t easy. It’s a bit like dying.
She was over forty.
Yes, but I’ve been playing in Serie A since I was sixteen. And some things you miss. The adrenaline, the fatigue. I also said it, in my farewell speech at the stadium: “I’m afraid, stay close to me”. And the Romanists have never left me alone.
When she quarreled with Spalletti, Ilary intervened in her defense, calling him a “little man”.
She did it all by herself. She wanted to protect me, she had an almost maternal reaction. You have never understood much about football.
She quit football.
And then I also left Rome, where I had started working as a manager. The break with the old property was traumatic: like having to leave your home. I was fragile, I lacked references, and Ilary did not understand the importance of this pain. Then he arrived on October 12, 2021.
What happened on October 12th?
My dad is dead. Covid. And I last saw it on August 26th. I knew he was sick, and I couldn’t visit him. My dad was always there for me, he never lost a trip. He never paid me a compliment, but with the others he was very proud: Francesco is number one, he said. Then I took Covid too, in violent form: 25 days locked up at home, I was about to end up in hospital. In short, it was a terrible time for me. Luckily there were the children. Finally I was able to spend more time with Cristian, Chanel and Isabel. My wife, on the other hand, when I needed her most, wasn’t there. In the spring of 2021 we went into crisis definitively. The last year has been tough. There was no more dialogue, there was no longer anything.
And you, Totti, didn’t you make mistakes?
Of course. When it breaks, it breaks in two: 50 and 50. I should have been with her more, alone. Instead, on the weekend I organized with friends. Ilary was also there; but I should have taken her to dinner, given her more attention.
She, Totti, had an affair with Noemi Bocchi.
It is not so.
Dagospia has published a photo in which on December 4th 2021 you are sitting not far away at the stadium.
Noemi was not at the stadium with me. We arrived with different cars, we had different seats. Do you think I’m taking my lover to the Olimpico? A more intimate environment isn’t it? However, it is true that I already knew her. And I frequented her as a friend of hers, with her padel friends. Our story began after the New Year. And it consolidated in March 2022. I repeat: I was not the first to betray.
In September of last year the rumors began to arrive: look that Ilary has another one. Indeed, more than one.
Did she believe it?
It seemed impossible to me. Instead I found the messages.
Did you spy on your wife’s cell phone?
I had never done it in twenty years, nor had she ever done it with me. But when I got warnings from different people, whom I trust, I got suspicious. I looked at her cell phone. And I saw that there was a third person, who acted as an intermediary between Ilary and another.
When did it happen?
I noticed it in the fall, but the messages were from before.
Who was the third person?
Alessia, Ilary’s hairdresser, her friend.
And the other?
Don’t let me tell you the name. He is a totally different person from me, who belongs to a world very far from mine, and fortunately. It was a shock. Not only that Ilary had someone else; but that he might be interested in such a man. Yet he had it.
What did the messages say?
Something like: let’s meet at the hotel; no, it’s more prudent of me.
How did you react?
I kept it all inside. I haven’t told anyone, not even Vito Scala, the friend who has been by my side since I was eleven. I am not one who turns a blind eye, but I preferred to ignore it. I sent down, not to break the family, to protect the kids. I suffered like a dog. She said to me: this year I stay a little longer in Milan, I go back to Rome less, and I thought: I believe it, you have this other one … But I still hoped it wasn’t true.
Totti, look what happens. All couples are exposed to temptations; even more so a couple like yours. It will have happened to Ilary. It must have happened to her too. Isn’t it that she looks like the classic Italian male, who takes his liberties but gets mad if he discovers those of his wife?
There have been rumors in the past. On her and on me. But they were indeed rumors. Here was the evidence. The facts. And that threw me into depression. I couldn’t sleep anymore. I pretended nothing happened but it was no longer me, I was another person. I got out thanks to Noemi.
Do you know what everyone thought? That Noemi is very reminiscent of Ilary from a few years ago.
I haven’t thought about it at all. Indeed, Noemi is the opposite of Ilary, also in terms of character. But I don’t like making comparisons.
When did your relationship start?
We used to hang out as friends. Then, after the New Year, it became a story. When on February 22nd Dagospia published the photo at the stadium, the one taken in December, Ilary asked me for an account.
I denied it. At first I didn’t tell the truth, neither to her nor to her children; as it was inevitable, since I still hoped to save everything. But at that point I took off a burden, and I asked Ilary about this other man. She also denied at first. She said she had never met him. She then realized that I knew, and she told me that they had only met with that guy to have a coffee. We also had a three-way confrontation with Alessia, and they both denied it. In fact, I know they met as early as March 2021. And that she dated him and other men a little too closely. Before my story with Noemi was born.
Yet with Ilary a little while ago you had your picture taken in the restaurant, as if you were always a couple. Have you tried to rebuild the marriage?
We tried a little, but not completely. Nobody wanted to try anything more. Let’s say it wasn’t a great attempt. I knew what she had done, even if I didn’t say anything so as not to damage her image of her, especially while she was doing the Island of the Famous. And she probably got bored. Because the marriage was actually over.
And you announced the breakup. With two separate releases.
I would have preferred a single press release, signed by both of us, to say that we had tried to overcome the difficulties but we had not succeeded. Ilary refused: because she had gone on TV to deny, to ensure that she was all right; and she couldn’t take it back. So she wrote her statement about her, to claim that she had done something to save the relationship, and I didn’t.
There are some very valuable Rolexes. He claims I gave them to him; but if they are men’s watches … I refuse to think it is a question of money. If anything, it’s a spite.
What did she do?
And what was I supposed to do? I hid the bags from her, hoping for an exchange … (Totti smiles) But there was no way. And that’s not all.
What’s still there?
He had me followed by a private investigator. People very close to her put bedbugs in my car, and the GPS to know where I was going; when it was enough for him to ask me. Other people have stationed themselves under Noemi’s house….
In fact, “Chi” has published his photo under Noemi’s house.
And where is the scandal? By now everyone knows about our history. I try to live it with discretion, always so as not to upset the kids.
What are the boys like?
I love them, and they love me. Last month all three brought them to me in Sabaudia. Cristian plays football: half wing. He has a great passion, he went up and down every day with Rome to train. With females I melt. Chanel is now a teenager, she is not an easy age, I don’t want her to suffer. From an early age they were already accustomed to seeing mum and dad one at a time: we were both very busy with work, and the players don’t have the weekend off … Isabel is still small, but she knows that by now she has understood everything. Also because at some point she took her away from me.
The deal was: July with the mother, August with me. Then Ilary worried that Isabel missed her, but I calmed her down: Isabel was fine, and then we made video calls every day. Instead she arrived in Sabaudia and took her by boat to Croatia.
What happens now?
I do not know. I fear that with Ilary he will end up in court. I still hope that we can find an agreement and end this story here. For sure, now I am silent. I don’t know if it’s understood, but this afternoon it cost me six months to live. I would have preferred a thousand times to give her an interview to talk about football and Roma, which I always carry in my heart.
Source: Corriere della Sera